How to Help

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Be part of my village

Pick one small way to help. One is enough.

I'm building my circle. I'm not asking anyone to fix my life. I'm asking for people who will do one real thing, and keep doing it.

You don't have to save me. You just have to stay.

How my village is different

Real helpers don't promise. They show up slowly, and they don't mind being checked.

You choose one thing. We meet by video or in a public place first. Everyone is checked.

1. Help me drown out the noise.

Some days, hurtful words from other people and my own doubts circle my head and won't stop. Your words can be louder. Tell me you see me. Tell me you believe me. Tell me not to give up. Hope gets louder with every voice.

A prayer counts too.

Tap one to start. You can add your own words.

You don't have to know me. You don't need to be checked to send words of hope.

Only I and my supported decision-maker read these. I never share your name or email.

On hard days, when I'm about to break, I read every note again. Your words become a voice I hear instead of the noise.

2. Teach me

I want to learn to do more on my own. If you have a skill and some patience, I'd love to learn from you.

Skills I want to learn
  • Cooking a simple meal
  • Making and keeping a budget
  • Using my phone and computer, step by step
  • Going through mail and paperwork

One hour a week is enough. We start with one skill. We can meet online or in a public place.

I can teach

You choose one thing. We start small.

3. Walk with me

A steady person, a mentor, a church family, or someone who just wants to show up.

  • Check in with me. Text me, call me, and mean it.
  • Come with me to appointments and take notes.
  • Treat me like a human being, with love and compassion. That is the one that has been missing.
I want to walk with you

4. Mentor me

As a mom, a friend, and a woman building a life.

I never got to learn the everyday things most people learn growing up. How to be a good friend. How to have a healthy relationship. How to find real love, not another empty promise. How to run a steady life. I need a mentor for all of it, not only as a mom. If you are a mom or a grandma who has walked a hard road, a mentor, or a dating or life coach, I would love to learn from you.

I can mentor you

Why this matters to me

Twice, a man promised me home. Family. Love. Twice, I believed him.

In 2016, I followed that promise to Virginia.

In 2025, I fled Virginia for the same promise.

Both times, it was a lie.

Both times, to keep my child safe from him, I sent her away.

Losing her is the hardest part of all of this.

Right now, she is not with me.

I have to put on my own oxygen mask first,

so I can be the mom she deserves.

I don't want my child to carry what I carried. I want to break the cycle. That's why I'm fighting to fix the cracks I fell through, so she never falls through them too.

5. Help me build daily routines

I have brain injuries, and I never learned the everyday routines most people learn growing up. I'm looking for an occupational therapist, a licensed caregiver, or a patient mentor who can teach me step by step and help me practice until it sticks.

Not someone to do it for me. Someone to teach me.

What I want to learn
  • A morning and night routine I can follow
  • Planning and making simple meals
  • Taking my medicine on time
  • Keeping my home in order, one small step at a time

Gentle, patient teaching helps me heal. We start by video or in a public place. Hands-on help in my home only happens after we have met and you have been checked.

I can help with routines
Illustration of a woman cooking vegetables in a kitchen.

How it works

Sending me hope does not need any of these steps.

  1. You reach out Tell me who you are and what you would like to help with.
  2. We talk Everyone has an interview first. It is a conversation, not a test.
  3. You are checked References and a background check before anyone becomes part of my daily life.
  4. We start small One task. One regular time. No one takes on everything at once.
  5. We build from there If it works for both of us, it grows.

Why everyone gets checked

People have hurt me. Because of that, I cannot skip this step, and I will not.

Being checked is not personal. If it is a problem for someone, they are not the right person for this.

Please don't

  • Send money or gifts to my home. I don't share my address.
  • Visit without talking with me first.
  • Ask to meet alone. The first few times, we meet in a public place or with someone I trust.
  • Handle my money, bank cards, benefits, or passwords. Budget help means teaching me, not doing it for me.
I don't ask strangers for money. If someone asks you for money for me, it is not me.

Join my village

Tell me who you are and how you want to help. This is how you join my village. You don't need the right words. Just tell me what you can do.

You'll hear back by email within 1 week.

Only I and my supported decision-maker read these. I never share your name or email.

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